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Love, Ritual and Videochat

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Technologies such as Skype and iChat have become increasingly commonplace in the home, and being used more and more often by families to communicate at a distance, despite the absences of support for such interaction that are common in an office setting. In this chapter I look at the topics of videochat and intimacy in HCI and CSCW, and propose an approach to taking such interactions seriously. I introduce the use of the Five Love Languages (5LL) system as a simple and approachable theoretical model for making sense of how people talk about communicating love through video chat in their extended family.

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    In particular, Chapman, a pastor in a Baptist church, brings with him a set of values, particularly around homosexuality, that I do not endorse.

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Kaye, J.“. (2011). Love, Ritual and Videochat. In: Harper, R. (eds) The Connected Home: The Future of Domestic Life. Springer, London. https://doi.org/10.1007/978-0-85729-476-0_10

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